I think that some 19 or 20 year-olds have been through a lifetime of shit. Some may need direction or normalcy in life that was not afforded them growing-up. Some 40-year-old men still function as teenagers so I concede that it may work but cannot be considered as the norm. When my marriage went to hell, it was not over a younger woman, but I was kinda lost for a time and dated a much younger woman who had a very old brain.I was 34 and she was 20. We got along very well, and I provided her with a lot of stuff she'd missed, possibly in the abscence of her father, and I was introduced to a lot of things I had been missing as all I had ever done is worked.

Women live longer than men on average so I guess it should really be the other way around, but mental age plays a big factor. I don't really feel my chronological age, and there are some very mature women in their 20's, but I tend to think that teens are still growing at 20 and are still in their formative years and are not sure of everything. 21 would be about the youngest now that I feel I could have anything in common with; and anyone going with an impressionable and inexperienced teenager is really just in-it for the libido.

It's like in the war, my great-uncle said they only took troops as prisoners who were under the age of 21 as they had no idea what they were doing there. Professional soldiers over the age of 21 were disarmed and left to fend in the cold winter as they knew something about what they were doing and why they were there. There was not enough ammunition to shoot them and leaving them to freeze was better.

When I was 21 I knew nothing, but thought I knew everything- and was not done growing-up. It would be unconscienable for me to expect someone in that same situation to know everything so really it would have to be a special person for me to honestly be able to have a real relationship with.

I think its wrong just because she is soo young. I don't think age matters if they are both old enought and have had time to have their own life experiences.

Gee 19. I don't even remember those memories. They seem so irrelevant now. I guess you have to go through those times to appreciate what is important. I think If I skipped those years, I may have regretted it later and would not even be able to go back and live it up anymore either.
But then again some people are more mature for their age. My supervisor at University had married a 65 year old professor when she was 23. She admired his status, intelligence and charished their conversations and love of symphony. Wow I don't know any 23 year old guy who is into that. Her best memories in life was with her late grand father. hmmm. Go figure.
I don't personally know of any 65 year old who now likes to live like a teenager. But I am sure it exits somewhere. But certainly no 23 year old is going to marry them :)
There is a time and a place for everything. If it is lost it will never come back.

i lived in the Philippines for a year, i saw some crazy stuff. its all in hope that if it does happen, the girls are safe. if they are, and they love the guy then great, if not, well its kinna sad if they are abused.

I say maybe 10 years is ok ,must have same interest ok,good luck.

sure, whatever works for both people

I think there is far worse stuff going on in society than if an 18 year old dated an older guy in his 40s. Personally I wouldn't do it but I know lots of women mature at 16 and sometimes even younger and some guys don't mature till later in life. I dated older women when I was younger as I think lots of guys have. I think the key word here is dated. Because of the age difference I don't think you would see many of these couples having long term relationships. But then again who knows If a young person came from an unstable home and met a guy she loved who was much older and stable it could work out.

I think that dating someone that young when your in your 40s is terrible. The 18-19 year old doesn't have the same mentality or life experiences to make the situation fair.

I personally think it's disgusting to date someone who is either old enough to be your parent or young enough to be your child. Just my 2 cents.

Ok for who ?? ok by who ? You don't have to ask permission to anyone, if you both are ok with it, who cares about what others think.
Can you or can he handle it, is a more important issue to address.
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